A peek at my most "annoying" part and a vulnerable ask

It’s important for us to understand our parts and what they are trying to do when we are using an attachment lens. These parts can give us so much information about our needs and what would be helpful and supportive to us in our current relationships (or inform us about what we really want and need in a partnership if we aren’t in one currently and want to be).

Elizabeth GilletteAugust 1, 2024Internal Family Systems, attachment theory, attachment styles, anxious attachment style, secure attachment, elizabeth gillette, held retreat, held with elizabeth and monica, healing retreat Comment

Tending to What's Yours

Our environment is one of constant distraction, overwhelm, dysregulation and the desire to be almost anywhere that you are not currently. What if our work is to learn to channel those feelings into what matters most and let go of the rest?

Elizabeth GilletteJune 18, 2024anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, disorganized attachment, inner resourcing, held with elizabeth and monica, elizabeth gillette, attachment theory, attachment styles, attachment coach, relationship coaching Comments

Every Modality is a Framework

I’ve received a few strongly-worded emails about my offerings (including the fact that Monica and I are including a bonus astrology reading in our HELD group coaching program, because astrology is not "evidence-based"), and I wanted to address it directly because I feel like it connects to some greater issues that I see at play in the therapy/healing world currently.

Elizabeth GilletteApril 24, 2024anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, disorganized attachment, attachment coaching, attachment styles, attachment theory, elizabeth gillette, held with elizabeth and monica, held group coaching Comments

How Many Truths Can Be True At Once?

In this eclipse time, where the things we don’t need are falling away left and right, I want to offer some permission slips for you:

Elizabeth GilletteApril 5, 2024anxious attachment, avoidant attachment style, disorganized attachment, held group coaching, held with elizabeth and monica, attachment coaching, attachment theory, healing attachment wounds Comments

Your younger parts want to know who is in charge 👶🏻

As I’ve been researching and planning for our disorganized attachment offerings, I’ve been thinking about how easy it can be to slip into younger versions of ourselves when stress, trauma, fear, or overwhelm creep in. Parts work, or Internal Family Systems, can be a beautiful and extremely helpful framework for understanding why we show up the way we do in moments of stress and anxiety—especially in our relationships.

Elizabeth GilletteFebruary 28, 2024anxious attachment, avoidant attachment style, disorganized attachment, held retreat, held with elizabeth and monica, elizabeth gillette, attachment theory, attachment therapist, attachment coach Comments

Safety, Clarity, and Connection: Supporting Insecure Attachment Styles

Safety, clarity, and connection are qualities that create a grounded experience in the nervous system. When confusion and disorientation are corrected (clarity), the body and brain feel safe (safety), and the ability to connect is freed up (connection). Over the many years I’ve been exploring attachment work and supporting clients in developing a felt sense of safety in their bodies, these are the aspects that have resonated most.

Elizabeth GilletteFebruary 13, 2024attachment style, attachment theory, fearful avoidant, disorganized attachment, anxious attachment, avoidant attachment style, secure attachment relationship, elizabeth gillette, held with elizabeth and monica Comments

Knowing Vs. Experiencing in Attachment Work

Are you the kind of person who can read article after article, book after book, and loves to absorb information and learn things? When I become interested in something, I dive right in. I want to know as much as I can.

But knowing only gets me so far.

Elizabeth GilletteAugust 19, 2022anxious avoidant dynamic, anxious attachment style, avoidant attachment style, dismissive avoidant, disorganized attachment, fearful avoidant, attachment theory, group coaching, held with elizabeth and monica, elizabeth gillette Comment

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