I don’t have to tell you that we are witnessing and participating in a major shift in our country and culture. Our actions and inactions are making it clear to our families and our communities where we stand and what we believe in.
I want to be explicit about my stance: Black lives matter.
Exactly a year ago today, my partner and I found out we were expecting our son Nico. As he approaches the four-month mark (!!!), I am reminded of how much we wanted him as part of our family. The timing of this reminder couldn’t be more perfect given the circumstances and the feelings of isolation so many of us are experiencing.
Read MoreSo much has happened since I last wrote to you. I don’t need to tell you that because I know how deeply you feel it in your body, in your day to day life. Life as we know it as been turned upside down and it’s going to take us a long time to figure out how to move forward. Until then, we are living in the moment, in the uncertainty.
I don’t know about you, but this has been incredibly difficult for me.
As you know, my partner and I are expecting our first child in the next month (!!!) and I’ve spent quite a bit of time contemplating my relationship to my work while transitioning to the role of parent. Initially, I thought FOR SURE that I would have blog posts written ahead of time to share while I was away. Then I became pregnant and my creative energy shifted and it felt like that option went out the window! The reality is this: I have NO idea how I’m going to feel, what I will be able to produce, or how much time I will truly have to devote to my work when I am juggling my new role as a mother over the next few months. And because my true work on this planet is to pass down the healthiest, most secure attachment patterns I can, I am going to make that my priority while I’m on maternity leave.
Read MoreAs a therapist, I have the honor and privilege of being able to witness people at all stages of their healing paths. This means that I’m working with people who are still feeling very hurt and we are sorting through the pain together; people who have some space from their experiences and are formulating a plan to practice different emotional patterns; and people who are actively engaging in new routines, making mistakes, and self-correcting based on their new emotional blueprints. Across the board, everyone is actively learning. Sometimes I also encounter folks in the world who haven’t started on their healing work yet or are feeling stuck where they are, and their energy is very different.
Read MoreIn today’s bonus episode, I’m speaking with Dr. Chelsea Rae Verslues (she/her) with Nourish and Flourish Network Care located here in Asheville, NC. This powerful episode is filled with inspiration, love and wisdom! Dr. Chelsea Rae shares her healing journey along with her passion for empowering others to heal, tune into their bodies and live their best life.
Read MoreI have lots of fresh new content to share with you this week! First: there is a new BONUS episode of the Here to Heal podcast today! I’m sharing a sweet and powerful interview I had with Dr. Chelsea Rae Verslues, a trained chiropractor and network care practitioner here in Asheville, North Carolina. We talk all about healing, tapping in to our personal power, and listening deeply to our bodies.
Read MoreFirst, I’m thrilled to be sharing 2 bonus podcast episodes with you in the next month. I’m also going to be launching a new support bundle that is filled to the brim with prompts, tools, and strategies to support you in your self-healing journey. Focusing on your own healing work is an incredibly powerful way to make huge changes to your day-to-day experience of your life, as well as directly impact every relationship you are a part of.
Read MoreI get questions regularly from folks asking things like, “based on what’s happening right now in our relationship, do you think we can make it? Is it worth trying?” And I totally understand that consideration, especially when you’ve been doing what feels like EVERYTHING to try to make the relationship work.
Here’s what I will say: there is a lot to think about when it comes to determining whether your relationship is something you can participate in for the long haul. I want to offer some aspects of your partnership to consider if you are finding yourself wondering this same thing.
Read MoreI’ve been talking with lots of folks about grief recently. Has this been coming up for you, too? As exciting as change and growth and healing are, there is sadness that goes along with these transitions. It’s something I wished we talked about more, but we don’t. There is so much focus on the beauty of change and healing (which is positivity-washed) that we sometimes forget that sadness fits in with all of it.
Read MoreToday I want to talk about a topic that has been near and dear to my heart recently: REST. Relaxation (or just being) does not come naturally to me, but recently I've been learning to appreciate the importance of integrating our experiences as a critical component of healing.
Read MoreI’ve been thinking a lot about our opportunities to tell the truth about our lives. Do you do this? When someone asks you how you’re doing, are you honest? Or is it just easier to say “good” and move on, burying the truth even deeper inside?
I’ve definitely had my ups and downs over the past several months—and for me, telling the truth about my experience helps me stay in my integrity, stay connected to my humanness and our collective humanness, and gives me permission to be fully myself. No one’s life is perfect. None of us get out of this unscathed.
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