In my last blog post of the year, I want to explore how we can care for our attachment systems. We have collectively been thrown into phases of avoidant, anxious, and disorganized attachment this year—we’ve locked down, craved connection and community, as well as become fearful (rightfully so) of potential exposure to illness.
Read MoreI recently received a question from someone I’m connected with via social media. She reached out with this information about her relationship challenges (which I’ve edited so she remains anonymous). I’ve chosen to share it with her permission because I feel confident others have had similar experiences in their partnerships and I know how common the anxious-avoidant relationship dynamic is. I suspect that if you have ever been in a partnership with this dynamic, this person’s experience will ring true for you.
Read MoreSo much has happened since I last wrote to you. I don’t need to tell you that because I know how deeply you feel it in your body, in your day to day life. Life as we know it as been turned upside down and it’s going to take us a long time to figure out how to move forward. Until then, we are living in the moment, in the uncertainty.
I don’t know about you, but this has been incredibly difficult for me.
As a therapist, I have the honor and privilege of being able to witness people at all stages of their healing paths. This means that I’m working with people who are still feeling very hurt and we are sorting through the pain together; people who have some space from their experiences and are formulating a plan to practice different emotional patterns; and people who are actively engaging in new routines, making mistakes, and self-correcting based on their new emotional blueprints. Across the board, everyone is actively learning. Sometimes I also encounter folks in the world who haven’t started on their healing work yet or are feeling stuck where they are, and their energy is very different.
Read MoreI have lots of fresh new content to share with you this week! First: there is a new BONUS episode of the Here to Heal podcast today! I’m sharing a sweet and powerful interview I had with Dr. Chelsea Rae Verslues, a trained chiropractor and network care practitioner here in Asheville, North Carolina. We talk all about healing, tapping in to our personal power, and listening deeply to our bodies.
Read MoreFirst, I’m thrilled to be sharing 2 bonus podcast episodes with you in the next month. I’m also going to be launching a new support bundle that is filled to the brim with prompts, tools, and strategies to support you in your self-healing journey. Focusing on your own healing work is an incredibly powerful way to make huge changes to your day-to-day experience of your life, as well as directly impact every relationship you are a part of.
Read MoreI get questions regularly from folks asking things like, “based on what’s happening right now in our relationship, do you think we can make it? Is it worth trying?” And I totally understand that consideration, especially when you’ve been doing what feels like EVERYTHING to try to make the relationship work.
Here’s what I will say: there is a lot to think about when it comes to determining whether your relationship is something you can participate in for the long haul. I want to offer some aspects of your partnership to consider if you are finding yourself wondering this same thing.
Read MoreI’ve been talking with lots of folks about grief recently. Has this been coming up for you, too? As exciting as change and growth and healing are, there is sadness that goes along with these transitions. It’s something I wished we talked about more, but we don’t. There is so much focus on the beauty of change and healing (which is positivity-washed) that we sometimes forget that sadness fits in with all of it.
Read MoreToday I want to talk about a topic that has been near and dear to my heart recently: REST. Relaxation (or just being) does not come naturally to me, but recently I've been learning to appreciate the importance of integrating our experiences as a critical component of healing.
Read MoreI’ve been thinking a lot about our opportunities to tell the truth about our lives. Do you do this? When someone asks you how you’re doing, are you honest? Or is it just easier to say “good” and move on, burying the truth even deeper inside?
I’ve definitely had my ups and downs over the past several months—and for me, telling the truth about my experience helps me stay in my integrity, stay connected to my humanness and our collective humanness, and gives me permission to be fully myself. No one’s life is perfect. None of us get out of this unscathed.
Read MoreIn the Season 1 finale, Elizabeth shares more about her own personal healing—her continued process around her cancer diagnosis earlier in her life, her journey with fertility, and some exciting news! She also explores some of what she has learned throughout Season 1 related to healing and our continued growth individually and collectively. Elizabeth also shares her deep gratitude for YOUR support of the podcast.
In today’s episode, I’m speaking with Ada Volkmer (she/her) and Monse Ramirez (she/they) who have come together through interpreting, language work and supporting social justice in Asheville, NC. Ada and Monse share their stories of experiences with language barriers, finding communities that resonate with their authentic selves, the importance of self-care and how they share their gifts with their communities.
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