A common question in relationships is “how much space should I give my partner?” It’s tricky to navigate this at times, especially if you are in an anxious-avoidant relationship dynamic. Your partner indicates they want space, but you want to know *exactly* what that means. This desire is completely understandable—we know that for folks with the anxious attachment adaptation, that space can feel excruciating at times. And of course, you want to do it well and be respectful of your partner’s needs.

Elizabeth GilletteNovember 2, 2021anxious avoidant trap, anxious-avoidant, anxious avoidant dynamic, anxious attachment, anxious-avoidant trap, anxious-avoidant relationship pattern, avoidant attachment style, avoidant attachment triggers, avoidant attachment, making anxious avoidant relationship work Comments

Everything You Wanted to Know about Your Avoidant Partner

I am so excited to share this post with you today. I have had the opportunity to connect with the creator of the Loving Avoidant Instagram page who has generously and vulnerably shared their experiences with the avoidant attachment adaptation. As you know, I believe this style is deeply misunderstood and has a negative reputation in the attachment world. There is so much healing we can all do by learning more about how people experience this style, what it’s like for them in relationships, and how we can all become more loving, safe, and accepting human beings.

Elizabeth GilletteOctober 18, 2021avoidant attachment triggers, anxious attachment, attachment styles, anxious avoidant trap, anxious-avoidant, avoidant partner, anxious avoidant dynamic, avoidant, avoidant dismissive, anxious-avoidant relationship pattern, avoidant attachment, making anxious avoidant relationship work, avoidant attachment style, signs an avoidant loves you Comments

Looking Ahead (I'm back from maternity leave!)

So much has happened since I last wrote to you. I don’t need to tell you that because I know how deeply you feel it in your body, in your day to day life. Life as we know it as been turned upside down and it’s going to take us a long time to figure out how to move forward. Until then, we are living in the moment, in the uncertainty.

I don’t know about you, but this has been incredibly difficult for me.

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