How to Connect, Based on Your Attachment Style

In the attachment and relationship world, we talk a lot about prioritizing connection, but we don’t necessarily talk about *how* to go about the connecting part. Depending on your attachment style, the prospect of creating connection may be fraught with stress or anxiety, or maybe even feelings of desperation or dread. I think it’s important to explore what it means to really connect with another person, what our goals are for connection, and how to connect in a way that feels natural and ultimately safe for us.

Elizabeth GilletteNovember 29, 2021attachment styles, attachment style, attachment theory, anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, disorganized attachment, healthy relationships, healthy communication in relationships Comment

Healing is Our Responsibility to Each Other

I’ve been thinking a lot about healing our attachment wounds in the context of community. I am so lucky to have an amazing network of people in my life who are fully on board with doing the work—our individual work, our collective work, and everything in between—and in conversation with these people, I am reminded of not only my care and love for them but of my responsibility to them. My life does not exist in a vacuum. The actions I choose to take and how I show up in the world directly impact my family and my community, and our communities are all connected.

Elizabeth GilletteSeptember 13, 2021secure attachment style, secure attachment relationship, secure attachment, anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, healthy relationships, healthy communication in relationships, effective communication Comment

How do I move on from my relationship?

I hope you are taking good care of yourself and you are feeling supported in your community.

I am taking the opportunity this week to answer a few questions that folks submitted to me via Instagram. I love being able to respond to your inquiries and provide some perspective from an attachment lens about your experiences. Thank you for your vulnerability and trust!

Elizabeth GilletteAugust 17, 2021attachment styles, attachment theory, avoidant partner, avoidant attachment style, avoidant, healthy relationships, healthy communication in relationships, relational patterns Comments

Are you intentionally cultivating healthy relationships?

One of the things I’ve learned as I have engaged in attachment work is that healthy relationships don’t just happen—we have to cultivate them. Even relationships that naturally fall into place in our lives require our care and attention. Eventually, they will need us to invest in them and devote our time and energy to helping them grow.

So why not start now?

Elizabeth GilletteFebruary 23, 2021attachment, secure attachment, attachment styles, secure attachment style, emotional safety, healthy communication in relationships, secure attachment relationship, effective communication in relationships, improving communication in a relationship Comment

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